A Wedding Shower

I think one of the most surprising things about a wedding shower isn’t that there are such shower options, but that so many people don’t seem to know about them.

Of course you know about the unexpected forms of the bridal shower as they refer to them on marthastewartweddings.com. But then you managed to find the site which is almost exclusively visited by people who already know a little bit about wedding showers. You are a member of a small group of women, or should I say individuals, that what to do something different, out of the norm, and you are in the right place.

But lets assume for a minute that you have never heard about this from of bridal shower before.

What’s the Deal With Wedding Showers?

As you may or may not know a wedding shower is when a couple decides to celebrate what would traditionally be called the bridal shower together. Some people are shocked when they learn that such a thing as a couple shower exists, like there is an unwritten law that says

Invitations and Supplies for Wedding Showers

There are a few things to think about that might deter some of your when it comes to picking out the style of wedding shower that you have available.

While they are getting more popular there is still a limited amount of resources available for you to pick from. There are some good ones though. And that is a good thing when it comes to celebrating the way you want to.

When you plan a shower invitations are very important. The reason is that they help you shape the overall feel of the celebration by capturing the – some would call it theme – in the design. While I am not a big fan of the overdone designs I have received there is a certain charm in having a beautiful, well printed invitation. And there are plenty to choose from when it comes to bridal showers.

The selection is much smaller when it comes to our type of shower. But that doesn’t mean that there aren’t a lot of great options to choose from when you look for couples shower invitations. You just have to know where to look. You can see from the different options that you’ll find on line that BBQ couples showers are one of the most commonly held styles, and they are often touted as the ideal form of the wedding shower. But that may not be what you’re looking for.

The Ring Hunt Wedding Shower Game
The Ring Hunt Wedding Shower Game

And if you say: I just can’t find the right wedding shower idea! Then I have an idea that is almost certain to put a smile on your face. Why not style your couples shower any way you want? If you want it to match your wedding then feel free to do that. There aren’t any rules involved in planning a shower. Sure there are plenty of different schools of etiquette that say what you can and can’t do for your bridal shower, but this isn’t their shower nor would it be be considered one when you look at it from their rigid standards.

A wedding shower is free from a lot of the restrictions that the bridal shower community at large has devised throughout its long history. A history that is based on an irreverence that by many of the shower aficionados would have you believe has no place in the modern bridal shower.

But to them I say one thing, shhhhh!

When it comes to your couples shower you can find plenty of great ideas, all you need to do is look at what others have done. Once you have some ideas on what you want to do for the party you can take it and shape it in whatever way you would enjoy the most. Once you have that finished finding the fitting supplies is easy. You may just have to look elsewhere.

One of the places that I often suggest is Amazon. I know that that sounds like the first stop place, but you would be surprised how many people still think that it is good for books and movies, and not much else. The reason I like to use them for the preparations is because they offer a lot of different choices from various sellers that you might not find as easily. Amazon also gives you suggestions across the different categories of the site so that you might get inspired from a completely different source than you had first assumed. This makes the wedding shower preparations exciting which is an important element any time you plan a party this big.

My First Impression

My first impression of a bridal shower was one that left me scratching my head. Let me share what happened and I’ll let you make your own decision. I can accept if you aren’t of the same opinion as I am, but you will at least see why I feel so strong about the option to enjoy a wedding shower.

Future Mrs Chair Decoration
Future Mrs Chair Decoration

When I was about six or seven years old one of my Aunts was going to get married. This is a common experience for many young girls as well as Aunts that will be getting married. I was incredibly excited about the idea. First it was something new that I had never experienced before. And secondly I was going to have the chance to play with one of my cousins that just happened to be about my best friend in the world.

As you can see, this was a real event in my life at that point up until about a week before the bridal shower.

My mother sat me down and asked why I was so excited when we talked about the shower for my Aunt.

I tried to explain it to her in what I recall felt like a very mature way.

And then came the news.

“Little boys don’t come to bridal shower. Men are never allowed to attend bridal showers. Bridal showers are for women.”

Huh? What are you trying to tell me? Do you mean that my cousin won’t be coming? As you can imagine he didn’t get to come, and I was less than excited about the bridal shower from that moment on.

But the thing that still haunts me is that when it came my turn for a bridal shower I let others dictate what I wanted. Instead of having an amazing wedding shower like I would have loved I was left holding what other people thought was important. Had I known what options there were available then I would have jumped on the chance to have a couples shower with my significant other. But it didn’t happen.

And that is why www.weddingshowers.xyz is so important to me.

I want to inspire the young brides that feel they can’t choose to have a wedding shower the chance to do just that. This site offers a number of resources that will help you find the best way to plan for a couples shower and give you a chance to look back on the afternoon with your significant other with joy.

Types of Wedding Showers

Front Door Decoration For A Wedding Shower
Front Door Decoration For A Wedding Shower

As I mentioned elsewhere on the site there aren’t nearly that many different types of wedding showers. What I mean when I say that is simply, while the whole bridal shower industry has turned just about everything into a specific theme for the bridal shower you won’t find

BBQ Couples Showers

When you start exploring the wedding shower options you will often encounter the BBQ shower. They seem to have taken over the role of the default couples shower style. And, even though they are wonderful way to enjoy an afternoon with those closest to you it might not be for everyone. If you fall into the second group we’ll get to you in just a moment. Right now let’s see what the BBQ shower has become so popular.

I think that one of the reasons they are so popular is because they offer an opportunity for people to enjoy a shower in a familiar settings.

You can enjoy a grill party just about anywhere. And depending on the time of year that are generally easy to manage, with little to clean up, and easy to plan and prepare for (in most instances).


The reason the they are so easy to manage is because they have a lower level of preparation than many of the popular bridal showers you’ll encounter. If you have ever held a BBQ before you will be able to manage a BBQ shower with the same ease.

For this reason they are one of the more attractive types of shower all around.


This one is going to also put a smile on your face. Outside of collecting the different necessities your guests will need to enjoy the BBQ you have a lot less in the form of decorations and party supplies.

This makes this type of wedding shower not only fun but also practical as well.


Like with any type of celebration cleanup is going to be part of the overall effort that goes into the party.

With a BBQ shower party you can encourage your guests to cleanup after themselves. If you have held a BBQ before you will know how this works. By encouraging the guests to help out you make the overall cleanup effort very manageable. Compare that to a tea party shower where you will need to wash all of the fine china afterwards and you will be wondering why you didn’t opt for the paper plates instead.

Unusual Wedding Showers

Bridal Shower Party Ideas
Bridal Shower Party Ideas

So far we have looked at the many different ways you can style your wedding shower. The sky is the limit when it comes to enjoying a shower as a couple. And here are a few of the fun ideas I’ve seen:

  • Sports Couple Shower
  • Bar & Grill Wedding Shower
  • Rustic Wedding Shower

As you can see from the difference in these styles you can really pick just about anything you want for your couples shower.

For example if you are a sports fan, a baseball game themed shower might be a fun idea. These types of showers are often combine with an outing (optional) to some sort of sporting event that gives you a chance to share what you love with the people that you love.

It really doesn’t matter, the more unusual the idea, the more creative it is. When you decide to break conformity by holding a wedding shower you shouldn’t let your options get limited.

After all there is only one chance to have the perfect wedding shower.